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Want to be a better person? 1
 작성자: 이준호  2019-08-16 09:23
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Dear Seonsa nim,

I started to learn buddhism from many videos and books including yours,
because I wanted to be happy and a better person. I also tried to meditate as well.
Through this learning, I could realize some part of Buddha's teaching, which shows a way to live without suffering.
'If I were without I, I would be happy.' Ok. I decided to use this way when I feel suffering. 

However, all of a sudden, I realized my initial and current motivation strongly connected to this I.
Then, other questions came up in my mind continuously.
Is it possible to be without I with this kind of motivation?
What is the difference between me and other people pursuing their own personal goals?
Is my motivation only a different version of theirs?
Am I just trying to avoid difficult situations which normal people just confront and try to solve?
How can I say this teaching is the highest?

I feel little confused. If Seonsa nim give me a advice, it would be very helpful.

Sincerely,

Joonho 



 

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wks2010
Dear Joonho,

How are you today? Thank you for your question. Our motivations may come from a sense of 'I', and this is quite alright. As we practice, the notion of 'I' appears and disappears, changes in character and by this experience we are gaining insight into the nature of this 'I'.

Every human being has a sense of self, whether deluded or clear, strong or weak. Our primary motivations come from there. If we choose the right direction, we can transcend and rebuild this 'I' in a better fashion than before: less suffering, more happiness not just for me, but for all beings.

Then we realize that our personal happiness is intricately and inseparably connected to other beings' happiness. Whether our motivation is selfish or encompasses all beings, that is the real difference between human commitments.

What is a difficult situation? When your existing strategies don't work, you have to reinvent yourself. In Zen, we say: you must change your karma. In turn, you become a different person, and you can give a direction to this transformation.

So, it is not the real issue whether we face difficulties or not. We all do from time to time. The real question is what/who do we become in the process: do we let the crisis make us a better person or worse.

I hope you continue practicing and make the right decisions to follow the correct path. Then you can become a person others will find good to live and die with. This helps you and all beings.

Kind regards from Wonkwangsa,

Chong An
  19-08-30 15:06  답변 삭제